Domestic Abuse

"Groups like Break the Cycle are urging victims of domestic violence to take a stand. “Don’t stay silent,”

Groups like Break the Cycle are urging victims of domestic violence to take a stand.

“Don’t stay silent,” says the blog at breakthecycle.com. “It’s time to speak up all month long.”

Since 1981, October has been recognized as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

The Peoria Police Department’s brochure domestic abuse suggests victims create safety plans, which can include:

• Consider obtaining an Order of Protection against the perpetrator. Always make sure that the order is kept current and that it includes all necessary locations.

• Submit a recent photograph of the batterer to the appropriate office personal where you work.

• An updated emergency contact person should be identified and your employer notified of this charge.

• Keep emergency number(s).

• If possible, have your calls screened and recorded.

• Consider changing your pattern of getting to and from work. Take various routes to everyday locations.

• Tell a trusted co-worker, friend, supervisor, and ask for help.

• Look into Employee Assistance Programs.

• Report all incidents of abuse, harassment and violations of your Order of Protection to the police. Always request that a report be made by law enforcement when a violation has occurred.

• Create a safety plan for home and work.

• Always carry a copy of your Order of Protection and

• Affidavit of Service.

• Document every incident/occurrence: time, date, location, etc.

Eve’s Place is a domestic violence service near Peoria, providing help for people dealing with domestic abuse. Call 623-537-5380. The Faith House in Glendale is another domestic violence shelter. For information, call 623-939-6798. The local Domestic Violence Shelter Hotline is 602-263-8900.

There is also a domestic violence legal assistance hotline is 602-279-2900.

Domestic violence can take many forms, including:

• Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, kicking, strangling (often referred to incorrectly as choking), pushing, punching, beating.

• Verbal Abuse: Constant criticism, making humiliating remarks, not responding to what you are saying, mocking, name-calling, yelling, swearing, interrupting, changing the subject.

• Sexual Abuse: Forcing sex on an unwilling partner, demanding sexual acts that you do not want to perform, degrading treatment.

• Isolation: Making it difficult for you to see friends and relatives, monitoring phone calls, reading your mail, controlling where you go, taking your car keys.

• Coercion: Making you feel guilty, pushing you into decisions, sulking, manipulating children and other family members, always insisting on being right, making up impossible rules and punishing you for breaking them.

• Harassment: Following or stalking, embarrassing you in public, constantly checking up on you, refusing to leave when asked.

• Economic Control: Not paying bills, refusing to give you money, not letting you work, interfering with your job, refusing to work and support the family.

• Threats and Intimidation: Threatening to harm you, the children, family members and pets, using physical size to intimidate, keeping weapons and threatening to use them.

• Destruction of Property: Destroying furniture, punching walls, throwing things, and/or breaking things.

• Self-destructive Behavior: Abusing drugs or alcohol, threatening self-harm or suicide, driving recklessly, deliberately doing things that will cause trouble.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1−800−799−7233.